Rest and Reflect Before Running to a New Relationship.

Getting rid of the “D” on your forehead after a divorce is a process and certainly one that no two people go through exactly the same.  However, there are many parts of that process that individuals share.  Strong feelings of hurt, anger, fear, guilt, rejection, and loneliness are often common denominators.  Learning that you are like everyone else who has or is going through this process is just the beginning.  Divorce sits alongside death as one of the most painful experiences life can put in front of you.  As Bruce Fisher, PhD stated in his book Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, “For many people, divorce is a broken experience, and before they can go on with their lives, they need to be able to pick up the pieces… The depth of the disappointment will depend upon how much more one wants to get out of life or how much one feels it necessary to add someone to one’s life to make it worthwhile.  I hope that the time that individuals spend in my Rebuilding Class helps them to put some of those pieces back together.  The ten weeks that individuals spend in my Rebuilding Class helps individuals to slow down long enough to reflect, learn and to grow through this difficult experience.  As they continue on their journey they can learn to feel better about themselves and their relationship future.  This important time offers a rest from being in a relationship so that individuals can reflect and heal before rebounding into a new relationship.

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