It has been said that we should love others as we love ourselves. Love for someone else has its roots in how you love and care for yourself. Can you accept that you are not perfect? Do you trust and respect yourself? Are you committed to your own personal growth? Do you treat yourself with kindness and un-conditional love? Do you understand what your rights and responsibilities are? Can you laugh at your own mistakes and foibles? Our greatest barrier to finding a loving relationship is in not truly loving ourselves. And the greatest obstacle to loving ourselves isn’t in the painful things some past person has said or done to us but rather our own ongoing criticism, and judgments that we place on ourselves. These destroy our self-confidence and create fears that can block us from connecting with others.